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How to Propose to My Groomsmen?

By Courtney Baldwin on 2019-07-24

Groomsman proposal ideas

Hi SuitShop! I just proposed to my fiancee a month ago and we are so excited to begin our wedding planning!  I have three buddies and my future brother-in-law that I will be asking to be my groomsmen.  What's the best way to ask them? My fiancee is having a ladies tea to ask her girls but of course that's not our Can you provide any suggestions?


Hello! Congratulations on your engagement! In this instance, a simple "Will you be my groomsman?" text just will not do! Consider doing something special to ask your guys as you mention that your bride-to-be is planning with her future bridesmaids.  If they are all local, consider inviting them out for a guys night of pool or another activity and present them with a small gift asking them to be one of your attendants.  There are a lot of fun personalized gifts available nowadays to ask your groomsmen with or present them with a "Will you be my groomsman?" card and a small gift.  Personalized gift options include beer and whiskey labelsflasks and shot glassessocks, or cigars.  If you decide to go the card and gift route, consider a card from Marrygrams  and a unique gift from Gentlemen's Hardware.  A gift that is not only fun but practical is a great idea!

Good luck and happy wedding planning!

About the Author

Courtney Baldwin

Courtney Arrington-Baldwin is the co-author of GROOMS: A Professional Stylist’s Guide to Wedding Planning for Every Budget. She has a seasoned background in menswear styling and provides style advice and wardrobe planning. Living in one of the fashion capitals of the world, New York City, she has a sophisticated understanding of wedding style, fit, and budget.